Basically a TED Talk on men's sexual desires

Ask Esther Perel Men are complicated, too View in browser NEW YORK | 30 SEPTEMBER 2015   The life you're meant to live: CULTURE Ask Esther Perel The loss of sexual desire: What you need to know Online 10 Mins For One Because every man wants to have better sex, even if that means actually committing to a relationship, we're proud to present Ask Esther Perel, a monthly series in which critically acclaimed sex therapist Esther Perel answers your questions about sex and relationships and helps you and your partner have a more fulfilling life, together. Have a question? Just ask Esther Perel. I just read the July column, where Esther answered a question from a man about his wife's loss of interest/desire for sex. But what advice do you have when a man loses sexual desire? My husband and I have only been married for a few years. We went from having sex several times a week to only having sex once a month. The few times we have spoken about it, he confessed that he feels like a failure (he just lost his job) and feels like it has sucked any sexual desire out of him. I'm at a loss. Is there anything that either of us can do? –M. I’m so happy you’re asking this question! Let’s clear a few things up: there’s this mistaken cultural stereotype of male sexuality that men are always interested in sex; that they're these perpetually-driven sexual creatures in constant search of an outlet. In reality, more often than not, it’s the men who lose interest. And there are several reasons. For this particular question, it seems like a lot of his loss of desire is tied up with losing his job, the ensuing loss of confidence, and his sense of self-worth. “If I don’t perform and achieve, I feel like less of a man,” says his internal voice. So I’m going to broaden the question to address several other aspects of men’s sexual desire. Read on for the full list. Related:Why Women Lose Sexual Desire in Long-Term RelationshipsHas Watching Porn Diminished My Libido? Nota bene: Esther Perel's new course "Rekindling Desire" is launching soon. Click here to be notified when it gets started. Ask Esther Perel Good advice here Check it out NOT YET A MEMBER? NAT'L SAWDUST OPENS WITH JAMES MURPHY LEGENDARY FALL SHOPPING EVENT DWELL ON DESIGN HOME TOURS BROOKLYN IS ANIMATING MOODS NOW/STILL DIVERTING WONDERS WE FOUND ONLINE 10 Pictures Showing How We Finally Found Water on Mars These Are the Mountain Homes of Your Ski Bum Dreams Inside Elon Musk's Futuristic Tesla Factory 3 Radical Ideas to Totally Disrupt Air Travel The 16 Best Places to Jet Off to This Winter About / Contact / Terms & Conditions / Privacy Policy / Editorial Policy / Careers / Partners / Press / UNSUBSCRIBE InsideHook publishes genuine editorial. There is no pay for play. Check out our editorial policy. Find Us On: Facebook / Twitter / LinkedIn / Instagram   © 2012-2015 InsideHook. All rights reserved. 135 W. 26th St., Fl. 2, New York, NY 10001 The life you're meant to live: CULTURE Ask Esther Perel The loss of sexual desire: What you need to know Because every man wants to have better sex, even if that means actually committing to a relationship, we're proud to present Ask Esther Perel, a monthly series in which critically acclaimed sex therapist Esther Perel answers your questions about sex and relationships and helps you and your partner have a more fulfilling life, together. Have a question? Just ask Esther Perel. I just read the July column, where Esther answered a question from a man about his wife's loss of interest/desire for sex. But what advice do you have when a man loses sexual desire? My husband and I have only been married for a few years. We went from having sex several times a week to only having sex once a month. The few times we have spoken about it, he confessed that he feels like a failure (he just lost his job) and feels like it has sucked any sexual desire out of him. I'm at a loss. Is there anything that either of us can do? –M. I’m so happy you’re asking this question! Let’s clear a few things up: there’s this mistaken cultural stereotype of male sexuality that men are always interested in sex; that they're these perpetually-driven sexual creatures in constant search of an outlet. In reality, more often than not, it’s the men who lose interest. And there are several reasons. For this particular question, it seems like a lot of his loss of desire is tied up with losing his job, the ensuing loss of confidence, and his sense of self-worth. “If I don’t perform and achieve, I feel like less of a man,” says his internal voice. So I’m going to broaden the question to address several other aspects of men’s sexual desire. Read on for the full list. Related:Why Women Lose Sexual Desire in Long-Term RelationshipsHas Watching Porn Diminished My Libido? Nota bene: Esther Perel's new course "Rekindling Desire" is launching soon. Click here to be notified when it gets started. Check it out Ask Esther Perel Good advice here emailed on 30 September 2015 NAT'L SAWDUST OPENS WITH JAMES MURPHY LEGENDARY FALL SHOPPING EVENT DWELL ON DESIGN HOME TOURS BROOKLYN IS ANIMATING MOODS NOW/STILL 10 Pictures Showing How We Finally Found Water on Mars These Are the Mountain Homes of Your Ski Bum Dreams Inside Elon Musk's Futuristic Tesla Factory 3 Radical Ideas to Totally Disrupt Air Travel The 16 Best Places to Jet Off to This Winter NOT YET A MEMBER? About / Contact / Terms & Conditions / Privacy Policy / Editorial Policy / Careers / Partners / Press / UNSUBSCRIBE InsideHook publishes genuine editorial. There is no pay for play. Check out our editorial policy. © 2012-2015 InsideHook. 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